Abdul Turay

Extracts from an interview with women's magazine: Home and Family

In Estonian(Eesti keeles) , Published December 2010

Is divorce a solution?

Divorce is only a solution when you shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. I can't speak for Estonia, but in my own country, England, I think the time has come to get rid of civil marriages altogether and just have marriages in church, temple or mosques, a holy place. A marriage should be a holy sacrament. Everybody else can have a civil union. People get divorced because marriage is too easy.

How do you solve problems in your marriage?

The only way you can solve problems is by discussing them. Sometimes you have to accept you can't have your own way. Most men, if they are intelligent, intuitively know they should allow their wives to control them.

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